Self Control – Inhibiting impulses and Managing Emotions
When we see impulsive behavior or strong emotions expressed in children, we often see it as “bad” or negative behavior. The truth is, these children have biological difficulty with the systems of the brain that count on “putting on the brakes” and working through strong feelings. Gaining control in these areas can be hard for some children. Besides a potential evaluation for ADHD, what tends to help is teaching children tools for slowing down and engaging more mindfully with their environment. Positive reinforcement and behavior shaping are used to gently and sensitively guide a child toward making gains in this area. A child who is in control of their behavior and emotions is a happier, more well-adjusted child.
- Gain awareness about one’s behavior and emotional control issues.
- Learn brain mechanisms that help to regulate in these areas.
- Take steps toward recognizing situations that trigger or provoke impulsive behavior or big reactions.
- Step by step, learn to slow down and be more thoughtful about choices and emotional expression.
- Learn tools for managing impulses and emotions.
- Learn to express the “softer emotions” – to label sadness, hurt, disappointment, regret, and/or fear (and related sources and situations) – in order to address underlying feelings, thus minimizing displaced anger or irritability.